Mothers come in all shapes and sizes. Some women are thrilled to accept the role, some not so much. One thing they all have in common is that their children would not have had the opportunity to live their life without them.
It is very easy to judge the job our mothers do, I did it myself with my own mother, until the day I realized she probably did the best she knew how to do. I also realized I did not know all the details of the struggles of her life, which influenced how she raised me and my brother.
Two of my own children are currently having a problem with the way I raised them. I am apparently, not the mother they would have chosen. I am afraid they will have to take that up with God. Like most mothers, I did the best I knew how to do, based on my life experiences and role models. Like most children, my three do not know all the details of my life.
The Biblical phrase, "Judge not lest ye be judged", comes to mind. Another great reminder is "He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass." attributed to George Herbert.
On this mother's day I am reflecting on what I did and didn't do and I believe I would give myself a pat on my back. I stuck it out and finished my assigned job and I believe I did ok. My three children are adults living their own lives. None of them have ever been arrested or as far as I know used drugs, which in today's world is a remarkable thing to say about your children. So it looks like I did something right, whether or not they believe I did.
In 1999 I wrote the following poem with my now estranged daughter in mind and I would like to share it with my readers, especially mothers to whom I am sending best wishes for a Happy Mother's Day!
My Gift From Above
An angel sent from above
in answer to my prayers
Thank you Father for your help.
An angel to love
to guide to shape
Thank you Father for your help
An angel to let go
to test her wings say goodbye
Thank you Father for your help.
An angel to watch and enjoy
as she shares what she has learned
Thank you Father job well done.
Barbara Loure` Gunn 1999
P.S.Special thanks to my oldest son, Jeff for not judging and accepting me exactly as I am!
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Barbara,
ReplyDeleteThere is no greater job than being a mother.
What comes with the role is many ups and downs.
To be on the same page is almost impossible because each has their own soul's journey to take on with so many differences amongst each other.
Each soul chooses their parents prior to incarnation to learn all that they came in for.
We teach our children and they teach us about ourselves.
It is a divine interconnection!
In the end of this incarnation, love will prevail.
We choose one another to learn our soul's highest potential of growth in pain and in love.
Thanks for sharing your insight Maria, have a great Mother's Day.
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