Today I would like to do something just a little different. I am sharing a post that came through my Facebook newsfeed this morning. It reminded me of my own experience and the reason I settled for becoming a stay at home mom instead of pursuing a career or higher education after high school graduation. Putting it simply I had no support and therefore lacked belief in myself. Here is the post:
Two months ago was the first time I cried during parent/teacher
conferences. A mom of a student who I have taught for two years showed
up at my table with a list of her
daughter’s teachers. Each one had “yes” or “no” written next to it. My
name had a “yes” next to it, so she proceeded to explain to me the
reason for her daughter’s extended absence. Her daughter- a friendly,
intelligent, beautiful, driven, young woman- not only planned to commit
suicide, but was in the act of doing so when the police got a Safe 2
Tell report, broke in, and stopped her. She had deleted her social media
accounts and left goodbye letters; she was ready to leave the world. As
her mom sat across from me, we both had tears streaming down our faces.
Feeling helpless, I asked if I could write my student a letter to be
delivered to her at the hospital; she said her daughter would love that.
My student got the letter; her mom said that her daughter cried, turned
to her mom and said, “How could somebody say such nice things about me?
I didn’t think anybody would miss me if I was gone.” It made me realize
that I was way too close to losing another student to suicide. I spent
the next 2 months writing cards to every one of my students- over 100 of
them- telling each one what is special and unique about them. Suicide
is growing to be more and more common, and I can’t help but to think
that it’s a direct result of the pressure we put on these kids- to be
successful, to fit in, to be the best in their class/sport/etc. We need
to remember that each human being is unique, and that is what makes them
special. Instead of trying to change it, we need to embrace it, because
together, we can make a difference, and we can save lives! #suicideawareness
If you have the means to help a child's self esteem grow- DO IT!