“He who would live in peace and at ease must not speak all he knows or all he sees. ~Benjamin Franklin
What a "bright" man Mr. Franklin was. I wish I had seen that quote a long time ago; it might have saved me a lot of pain. Lately I have been making a conscious effort to keep my mouth shut when I see or hear something that is not right- according to me. If you could overhear my soul mind talking to my ego mind you would be catching a lot of “leave it alone that has nothing to do with you!”
It is especially difficult for mothers of grown children to just make suggestions and leave the decision to take them or not up to the "child". Sometimes I look at my children ages 49, 44, and 30 and think, "did I do that?" I know I did the best that I could to teach them good values and if they didn't follow my example- oh well! I am no longer taking responsibility for the way they now live their lives.
When I look around and see others wasting what they have, abusing their bodies, being intentionally mean spirited or showing little gratitude for anything it is hard to keep quiet. I believe one of my big goals for this lifetime is to learn when to butt out and let others make their own mistakes. I have to constantly remind myself that I do not know all the details in that person’s life.
I spent most of my adult life trying to retrain other people to fit my idea of what they should be doing and how they should be doing it. What an enormous waste of time and energy that was. Life is a whole lot easier just taking care of me. No way do I consider myself perfect, but I am a much more balanced person than I was when I started my "conscious" journey to enlightenment eleven years ago.