Names matter in this day and age. The wrong name can change the path of finding important information. I suppose it can keep the wrong doers out too and that's not a bad thing.
For many years I have been trying to find my maternal great grandmother's family. I even had a picture of her taken in 1921 with my mother but I could never discover who her parents were. Apparently everything does happen when it is supposed to. The stumbling block was because what I thought was her first name was actually her middle name. The discovery not only led me to find out who her parents were, but their parents. I also found siblings of my great grandmother that I didn't know existed. It made me very happy to include all those name on my family tree. As a result of correcting the name I can now go back as far as my 3rd great grandparents on her side of my family.
As another bonus I also now have contact with a 3rd cousin who is still alive.
I had to laugh this morning when after some research trying to find information on my paternal grandfather I discovered when he married my grandmother in 1903 she used the nickname Trixie. That name doesn't seem to fit the grandmother I knew and called Nana! Oh well by any other name their marriage lasted for 34 years until my grandfather's death.
I mentioned in a previous post that when my own parents were married my mother used a last name that was not hers. Perhaps someday I will find out if they were legally married. It probably doesn't matter anymore, but they were my parents.
In conclusion if you want people to find you use your correct name and if you don't well...
Sunday, April 29, 2018
Thursday, April 26, 2018
It makes sense
After my post yesterday about the baby John who needs prayers for his health I asked myself why do I do things like that? Is there a name for passing on information to others? What popped into my mind were the words "spiritual messenger".
As I glanced up at my vision board I saw the little piece of paper that contained the numbers of my life path, soul urge and expression. I have known these numbers for years and never took the next step to find out what they meant. Numerology is not something I have ever been interested in.
My curiosity got the best of me and I googled them to see if it gave me a clue as to what my purpose in this life is. Apparently that is exactly what I was supposed to do.
My life path number is 7 and it means a combination of spiritual and everyday life (spirit over matter)
My soul urge number is 11 and it means spiritual messenger
My expression number is 3 it means inspirational, optimistic, expressive, creativity
In the words of, Monica, my former therapist, it makes sense!
As I glanced up at my vision board I saw the little piece of paper that contained the numbers of my life path, soul urge and expression. I have known these numbers for years and never took the next step to find out what they meant. Numerology is not something I have ever been interested in.
My curiosity got the best of me and I googled them to see if it gave me a clue as to what my purpose in this life is. Apparently that is exactly what I was supposed to do.
My life path number is 7 and it means a combination of spiritual and everyday life (spirit over matter)
My soul urge number is 11 and it means spiritual messenger
My expression number is 3 it means inspirational, optimistic, expressive, creativity
In the words of, Monica, my former therapist, it makes sense!
Wednesday, April 25, 2018
Asking a favor
This blog began in 2009 and I have rarely asked anything from my readers before, but there is a first time for everything. I have a favor to ask of you who read my blog because my main purpose in writing it is to pass on information that comes into my life on a daily basis.
Last December a little boy (John) was born with a serious heart problem that was discovered during pregnancy. Except for this problem he was born healthy. He had his first surgery when he was a few days old and recently had his second. I have been told by his great grandmother, who is a personal friend of mine, that he is not doing well.
Yesterday I asked my Facebook friends to pray for him and his family and send positive thoughts their way. I had wonderful response because I have caring friends all over the world. Now I am asking my readers who might be interested for the same favor.
I know from experience that when souls band together for a single cause miracles can happen. Thank you in advance for your kindness for the little guy and his family.
Last December a little boy (John) was born with a serious heart problem that was discovered during pregnancy. Except for this problem he was born healthy. He had his first surgery when he was a few days old and recently had his second. I have been told by his great grandmother, who is a personal friend of mine, that he is not doing well.
Yesterday I asked my Facebook friends to pray for him and his family and send positive thoughts their way. I had wonderful response because I have caring friends all over the world. Now I am asking my readers who might be interested for the same favor.
I know from experience that when souls band together for a single cause miracles can happen. Thank you in advance for your kindness for the little guy and his family.
Tuesday, April 17, 2018
In other words
Today my therapist and I mutually ended my sessions. I am free to continue on the path I was on or choose a new one. Although I did learn some things I am happy it is over. My therapist left me with the suggestion to research empathy. So I did. I know I am compassionate but I was not sure what empathy was.
I began by doing a google search with the question what is the difference between compassion and empathy.The result was: Compassion and empathy are not he same thing, though the concepts are related. Empathy refers to our ability to take the perspective of and feel the emotions of another person. Compassion is when those feelings and thoughts include the desire to help.
Not satisfied with the answer I got I checked out the dictionary. Compassion- sympathetic feelings:pity, mercy. Empathy- experiencing as ones own the feelings of another. All that did was confuse me even more.
My next step was to post the question on Facebook in hopes one of my friends would clear up the mystery for me.
While waiting for someone to post an answer I asked my long time friend Cynthia Brennen, LMSW, who is a Holistic Health Coach, what she thought the difference was. Her answer was: "My view is that empathy is stepping in the other person's shoes and imagining yourself in their experience, whereas, compassion is witnessing another's experience, standing outside, but feeling it with an open heart."
Three more friends did post an answer and I want to share what they said.
"Compassion is a feeling of sympathy, worry or concern for a person's circumstances. Empathy, you understand the feeling or circumstances the person is going through, perhaps from personal experience. There is a deeper connection."~ Priscill A.
"Being an empath we physically feel the emotion that another person is feeling. It is something you are born with. Compassion, I believe, is a feeling you can have without taking it in and absorbing it and making it your own. This is my experience".~Bobbie H. (in part)
The last answer is probably my favorite because it is short and to the point. It reminded me of KISS=keep it simple sister!
"Compassion- feel for, Empathy- feel with." Deedee P.
I began by doing a google search with the question what is the difference between compassion and empathy.The result was: Compassion and empathy are not he same thing, though the concepts are related. Empathy refers to our ability to take the perspective of and feel the emotions of another person. Compassion is when those feelings and thoughts include the desire to help.
Not satisfied with the answer I got I checked out the dictionary. Compassion- sympathetic feelings:pity, mercy. Empathy- experiencing as ones own the feelings of another. All that did was confuse me even more.
My next step was to post the question on Facebook in hopes one of my friends would clear up the mystery for me.
While waiting for someone to post an answer I asked my long time friend Cynthia Brennen, LMSW, who is a Holistic Health Coach, what she thought the difference was. Her answer was: "My view is that empathy is stepping in the other person's shoes and imagining yourself in their experience, whereas, compassion is witnessing another's experience, standing outside, but feeling it with an open heart."
Three more friends did post an answer and I want to share what they said.
"Compassion is a feeling of sympathy, worry or concern for a person's circumstances. Empathy, you understand the feeling or circumstances the person is going through, perhaps from personal experience. There is a deeper connection."~ Priscill A.
"Being an empath we physically feel the emotion that another person is feeling. It is something you are born with. Compassion, I believe, is a feeling you can have without taking it in and absorbing it and making it your own. This is my experience".~Bobbie H. (in part)
The last answer is probably my favorite because it is short and to the point. It reminded me of KISS=keep it simple sister!
"Compassion- feel for, Empathy- feel with." Deedee P.
Saturday, April 14, 2018
Forgiveness
Today my guide gave me a gentle push into the word forgiveness. Funny how things like that happen when I allow my intuition to lead me. Stay tuned if you like. Since our weather has been so windy the last couple of days I have been hiding out watching Netflix movies. This morning I realized they were all about relationships that involved forgiveness.
The next thing that came to mind was a biblical quote from many years ago. I had intended to end this post with the quote when I scrolled through my Facebook newsfeed and a friend had just posted the exact quote that was stuck in my mind. So I decided to begin with it as it is no doubt the supreme forgiveness quote.
Father forgive them for they know not what they do.~Jesus, according to Luke 23:34
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attitude of the strong.~Mahatma Gandhi
Mistakes are always forgivable if one has the courage to admit them.~Bruce Lee
It's one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.~Maya Angelou
We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this we are less prone to hate our enemies.~Martin Luther King Jr.
Forgive yourself for your faults and mistakes and move on.~Les Brown.
Forgive your enemies but never forget their names.~John F. Kennedy
Forgiveness is the final form of love.~Reinhold Niebuhr who was also the originator of the Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Have a great day and don't forget to forgive yourself first.
The next thing that came to mind was a biblical quote from many years ago. I had intended to end this post with the quote when I scrolled through my Facebook newsfeed and a friend had just posted the exact quote that was stuck in my mind. So I decided to begin with it as it is no doubt the supreme forgiveness quote.
Father forgive them for they know not what they do.~Jesus, according to Luke 23:34
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attitude of the strong.~Mahatma Gandhi
Mistakes are always forgivable if one has the courage to admit them.~Bruce Lee
It's one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.~Maya Angelou
We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this we are less prone to hate our enemies.~Martin Luther King Jr.
Forgive yourself for your faults and mistakes and move on.~Les Brown.
Forgive your enemies but never forget their names.~John F. Kennedy
Forgiveness is the final form of love.~Reinhold Niebuhr who was also the originator of the Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Have a great day and don't forget to forgive yourself first.
Thursday, April 12, 2018
Fear
Fear is something I have been dealing with for a long time and I am trying to break the habit. I can talk myself into pretty much anything, most of which never happens. What a waste of energy and time that is. I once had a doctor who advised, "Don't worry about things that may never happen". Perhaps I should have listened to him. Yesterday I read on someone's Facebook post that fear is used to control you. The first thing that popped into my mind was the memory of all the years that I attempted to follow the rules of a church to please a mate.
I recently found a mantra that is turning out to be very helpful when I am fearful. It is: I release fear from my subconscious.
Curiosity found me checking out quotes about fear. The following are some of the ones that I liked.
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.~Eleanor Roosevelt
You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you.~Eric Hoffer
Try a thing you haven't done three times. Once to get over the fear of doing it, twice to learn how to do it and third to figure out whether you like it or not.~Virgil Thompson
Do one thing every day that scares you.~Eleanor Roosevelt
We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afarid of the light.~Plato
Nothing in life is to be feared, it is to be understood. Now is the time to understand more so that we may fear less. ~Marie Curie
And to leave you with a smile:
I'm not afraid of death; I just don't want to be there when it happens. ~Woody Allen
I recently found a mantra that is turning out to be very helpful when I am fearful. It is: I release fear from my subconscious.
Curiosity found me checking out quotes about fear. The following are some of the ones that I liked.
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.~Eleanor Roosevelt
You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you.~Eric Hoffer
Try a thing you haven't done three times. Once to get over the fear of doing it, twice to learn how to do it and third to figure out whether you like it or not.~Virgil Thompson
Do one thing every day that scares you.~Eleanor Roosevelt
We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afarid of the light.~Plato
Nothing in life is to be feared, it is to be understood. Now is the time to understand more so that we may fear less. ~Marie Curie
And to leave you with a smile:
I'm not afraid of death; I just don't want to be there when it happens. ~Woody Allen
Monday, April 9, 2018
Prejudice or not?
According to my new therapist I am supposed to be working on my negative traits. Apparently the universe decided to push me in that direction too. My son recently added Netflix on my computer and I have been watching movies. One of the last movies I saw in a theater was Finding Nemo, with my grandson.
One good thing about using Netflix is I can pause it and do other things before watching again. I also allowed my guidance to have a say in the movies I watched.
The first one was To Kill a Mocking Bird followed by Sophia and the Rising Sun and Little Boy. All three were about racial prejudice. After watching them I concluded I have no prejudice toward race or color. After all my oldest granddaughter's husband is African American, my daughter, my four grandchildren and three great grandchildren are all part Native American. Oh I almost forgot my second husband was part Native American too. Even though I never met a black person until I was twenty something color/race has never been important to me.
After watching these movies I began thinking about other prejudices. Did I have them or not?
The first thing that came to mind was the gay community. I am aware that my mother would have said yes to this had she been honest. I have personally known some wonderful people of both sexes in this category and their sexual orientation does not bother me. It is none of my business what they do behind closed doors. I admit I did have a slight problem when I found out my daughter's sixth grade teacher was a lesbian. I am not sure why. Perhaps it was just too close for comfort.
The final prejudice I thought about was people with physical disabilities.The movie I watched was My Left Foot. The star's inability to speak so that he could be understood bothered me so much I stopped watching it part way through. I'm not sure if I can say I am prejudice or if I just considered it a bad movie that I am happy I didn't pay to see. I have a longtime friend who many people would say is physically handicapped, but if it were not for his many talents my house would no longer be standing. Perhaps this category depends on the circumstances.
In conclusion I would say I am not prejudice about groups of people. I am critical of individuals who do not take responsibility for their own actions, blame others and spread lies.
One good thing about using Netflix is I can pause it and do other things before watching again. I also allowed my guidance to have a say in the movies I watched.
The first one was To Kill a Mocking Bird followed by Sophia and the Rising Sun and Little Boy. All three were about racial prejudice. After watching them I concluded I have no prejudice toward race or color. After all my oldest granddaughter's husband is African American, my daughter, my four grandchildren and three great grandchildren are all part Native American. Oh I almost forgot my second husband was part Native American too. Even though I never met a black person until I was twenty something color/race has never been important to me.
After watching these movies I began thinking about other prejudices. Did I have them or not?
The first thing that came to mind was the gay community. I am aware that my mother would have said yes to this had she been honest. I have personally known some wonderful people of both sexes in this category and their sexual orientation does not bother me. It is none of my business what they do behind closed doors. I admit I did have a slight problem when I found out my daughter's sixth grade teacher was a lesbian. I am not sure why. Perhaps it was just too close for comfort.
The final prejudice I thought about was people with physical disabilities.The movie I watched was My Left Foot. The star's inability to speak so that he could be understood bothered me so much I stopped watching it part way through. I'm not sure if I can say I am prejudice or if I just considered it a bad movie that I am happy I didn't pay to see. I have a longtime friend who many people would say is physically handicapped, but if it were not for his many talents my house would no longer be standing. Perhaps this category depends on the circumstances.
In conclusion I would say I am not prejudice about groups of people. I am critical of individuals who do not take responsibility for their own actions, blame others and spread lies.
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