This time of year I like to publish something I wrote 23 years ago. Every time I hear a doctor suggesting people stop smoking I think about the best decision I have ever made.
I KILLED MY BEST FRIEND
For a variety of reasons I grew
up having very little self-esteem. When I graduated from high school I had no
clue what I was supposed to do with the rest of my life. I had been an average
student who finished school because it was expected. At 19 I was a very lonely
person who desperately needed a best friend.
The friend I choose for the next
forty years was three inches tall, smelled bad, controlled my life and led me
in the direction of poor health. The relationship was what would be considered
abusive today. At the beginning no one warned me of danger and in all those
years nobody offered to help me let go of my destructive companion.
There were of course, those who
shook their heads and fingers at me making rude comments about how disgusting
this relationship was. They probably thought they were helping, but they only
made me angry and caused me to stubbornly refuse to let go.
When I was 62 years old I looked
in the mirror and did not like what I saw. I decided I did not deserve to be
controlled by an object that could not possibly move from my hand to my mouth
without my help. I realized I was the only one who could end the relationship
and I have never been sorry that I did.
Believe me when I say, the only
way you will successfully stop smoking or any other negative addiction is to
become self centered and care about yourself. Whoever you are, believe that you
are a valuable person who deserves the very best life has to offer.
There are many people around you
who want to help. The hardest thing you have to do is learn to care about
yourself and be willing to accept their help. I know from personal experience
that once you do that the rest is a breeze.
Do you really want a best friend
who is three inches tall, smells bad, controls your life and is leading you in
the direction of poor health and perhaps death? If the answer is no, follow my
example and give yourself permission to live the healthy life you deserve.
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