The other night I began watching the end of a Lifetime movie, which I had seen before. I don’t remember the title and it isn’t important. The story was about relationships between parents and their grown children and male/female partners. Two of the main characters were living together; a divorced man with a daughter and a divorced woman with a daughter. The two had very different ideas of how much freedom a parent should give their (grown) children to make their own decisions.
The man was a humble, down to earth farmer who believed “live and let live” is the best way to live. The woman reminded me of myself, let’s say 10 years ago. For her own reasons, she was a very controlling mother. Her daughter got pregnant at a young age and decided to marry the father of her baby, against her mother’s wishes. This also caused an enormous rift between the kind man and the controlling woman. She blamed him for everything that happened.
Fast forward to the end of the movie and the reason I believe I was destined to watch it again. The woman finally decided to leave the man. Her final words to him were, “I wish I had never met you”. That got my attention and my immediate reaction was, she didn’t get the message the man brought her.
I began thinking about my past relationships, especially with men. Even though some were pretty bad I have never been inclined to use the words, “I wish I had never met you.” I know that every person who comes into our life is there to bring us a message. Someone once reminded me it isn’t the messenger; it is the message- the lesson that is important.
The universe works in strange ways sometimes, even bringing an important message in a glass box, just to get our attention and show us how far we have come.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
Change of Plans
Last week one of my facebook friends posted this quote: Plan B is giving permission for plan A to fail. I have been thinking about it ever since. It could have been written about my life. I always have a plan B, believing it is good to have a back up if things don't turn out the way I expect them to. Now I see it is a giant mirror reflecting the fact that I don't really think I am worthy of having my desires met. I am willing to settle for second best.
I thought about the numerous times I have asked for something, but in the back of my mind added a P.S. "If I can't have that then this will do." No wonder I am still waiting for things to happen. The universe/God is waiting for me to forget about plan B and realize that I am worthy of the best.
Learning to believe in myself has been a long process. There have been many road blocks along the path. Just the other day I told my chiropractor that maybe I should place a post-it note on my forehead, visible when I look in my mirror, that says "ME FIRST!". She laughed and agreed. I have a habit of waiting too long to make a needed appointment, thus causing a painful problem to last longer than it should.
So from this day forward I vow to remember the quote: Plan B is giving permission for plan A to fail.
P.S. Thanks Brenda!
I thought about the numerous times I have asked for something, but in the back of my mind added a P.S. "If I can't have that then this will do." No wonder I am still waiting for things to happen. The universe/God is waiting for me to forget about plan B and realize that I am worthy of the best.
Learning to believe in myself has been a long process. There have been many road blocks along the path. Just the other day I told my chiropractor that maybe I should place a post-it note on my forehead, visible when I look in my mirror, that says "ME FIRST!". She laughed and agreed. I have a habit of waiting too long to make a needed appointment, thus causing a painful problem to last longer than it should.
So from this day forward I vow to remember the quote: Plan B is giving permission for plan A to fail.
P.S. Thanks Brenda!
Sunday, July 18, 2010
The "Hogs" are Leaving
Whew! Grants, NM has survived another year of hosting the Fire and Ice Bike Rally. As a long time resident my thought is thank God it's over. Fortunately, I live slightly outside of town and if I use my brain and plan I can stay home and relax and not be bothered by the festivities.
The bike rally was the brain child of Cecil Brown 10 years ago. He convinced the town that it was a good thing and would bring in a ton of money. Well that is partly true if you happen to own a motel, a bar, a restaurant or space for camping. If, on the other hand, your business is located on the main street you might as well close and take a vacation for the four days of the rally. A place to park as well as any business you might have at the Post Office is impossible. Oh, and the Riverwalk, usually available for family fun, is off limits for the duration of the rally.
To be fair the Fire and Ice Bike Rally offers live entertainment, including the battle of the bands, and this year Molly Hatchet; a Poker Run, bike tours to local attractions, Baby Biker Contest, bike games and a bike show. Interested observers will also see biker babes of all ages, attired in leather, clutching a hairy dude riding an expensive "hog".
The bike rally was the brain child of Cecil Brown 10 years ago. He convinced the town that it was a good thing and would bring in a ton of money. Well that is partly true if you happen to own a motel, a bar, a restaurant or space for camping. If, on the other hand, your business is located on the main street you might as well close and take a vacation for the four days of the rally. A place to park as well as any business you might have at the Post Office is impossible. Oh, and the Riverwalk, usually available for family fun, is off limits for the duration of the rally.
To be fair the Fire and Ice Bike Rally offers live entertainment, including the battle of the bands, and this year Molly Hatchet; a Poker Run, bike tours to local attractions, Baby Biker Contest, bike games and a bike show. Interested observers will also see biker babes of all ages, attired in leather, clutching a hairy dude riding an expensive "hog".
Friday, July 16, 2010
Wishing
I wish I may I wish I might have the wish I wish tonight.
Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it. A funny little quote, but I have found it to be true. I have had a priority wish for several years and just recently realized it has been granted. So what’s the problem you might ask? Well let me put it this way- although I got what I asked for it wasn’t really what I wanted. My wish was based on the ego not the soul. The moral of my dilemma is when you ask you had better know exactly what it is you want, because the Universe IS listening!
If wishes were fishes we’d all cast our nets. ~Novelist Frank Herbert 1920-1986
When I was a kid I used to pray every night for a new bike. Then I realized that the Lord doesn’t work that way, so I stole one and asked him to forgive me. ~Great Quotes
It is not good for all our wishes to be filled; through sickness we recognize the value of health; through evil the value of good; through hunger the value of food; through exertion the value of rest. ~Greek Proverb
When you wish upon a star
Makes no difference who you are
Anything your heart desires
Will come to you
If your heart is in your dream
No request is too extreme
When you wish upon a star
As dreamers do
Fate is kind
She brings to those who love
The sweet fulfillment of
Their secret longing
Like a bolt out of the blue
Fate steps in and sees you through
When you wish upon a star
Your dreams come true.
~Disney Lyrics~
Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it. A funny little quote, but I have found it to be true. I have had a priority wish for several years and just recently realized it has been granted. So what’s the problem you might ask? Well let me put it this way- although I got what I asked for it wasn’t really what I wanted. My wish was based on the ego not the soul. The moral of my dilemma is when you ask you had better know exactly what it is you want, because the Universe IS listening!
If wishes were fishes we’d all cast our nets. ~Novelist Frank Herbert 1920-1986
When I was a kid I used to pray every night for a new bike. Then I realized that the Lord doesn’t work that way, so I stole one and asked him to forgive me. ~Great Quotes
It is not good for all our wishes to be filled; through sickness we recognize the value of health; through evil the value of good; through hunger the value of food; through exertion the value of rest. ~Greek Proverb
When you wish upon a star
Makes no difference who you are
Anything your heart desires
Will come to you
If your heart is in your dream
No request is too extreme
When you wish upon a star
As dreamers do
Fate is kind
She brings to those who love
The sweet fulfillment of
Their secret longing
Like a bolt out of the blue
Fate steps in and sees you through
When you wish upon a star
Your dreams come true.
~Disney Lyrics~
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Just do it
We all have our own reason for inhabiting this planet called earth. Like snowflakes, no two souls are exactly the same. I recently found a quote that said, “We are not here to fix anything we are here to expand.” How we accomplish that mission is a personal journey. We are not given a how to book or a road map. I believe the only expectation our Creator has for each of us is to simply do our best.
Do it Anyway
People are unreasonable, illogical and self centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down by
the smallest person with the smallest mind.
Think big anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
People really need help, but may attack if you help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you might get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
~Anonymous~
“It is not the critic who counts, nor the man who points out how the strong stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows great enthusiasms, great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt
Do it Anyway
People are unreasonable, illogical and self centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down by
the smallest person with the smallest mind.
Think big anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
People really need help, but may attack if you help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you might get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
~Anonymous~
“It is not the critic who counts, nor the man who points out how the strong stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows great enthusiasms, great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt
Monday, July 12, 2010
Walking the Path to Change
Whether from minute to minute or year to year everything changes. I don't believe anything was meant to be permanent. A few days ago I heard a very powerful quote by Tracy Chapman, "All you have is your soul." It started me thinking about how true that is. Our soul IS the only thing that is uniquely ours from the moment of our creation throughout eternity. It is our very own pristine connection with Source.
All else is much like a movie that we star in. Our relationships and possessions are simply passing experiences to help evolve our soul. As humans we get caught up in the script and forget the purpose- the big picture. I love the Biblical statement, "This too shall pass". It is difficult too remember it in times of stress, when everything in our "world" seems to be crumbling before our eyes.
Another powerful quote that recently came to my attention is a Buddhist saying, "Look at your feet." I have been doing that a lot since I heard it. Although I am very grateful for all that I have there are times when I wish for more. At those times I look down at my feet and realize that they are exactly where they are supposed to be at this moment in my life. They are doing exactly what they are supposed to be doing, walking the path to change.
Change
By changing your thinking, you change your beliefs;
When you change your beliefs, you change your expectations;
When you change your expectations, you change your attitude;
When you change your attitude, you change your behavior;
When you change your behavior, you change your performance;
When you change your performance, you change your life.
~Anonymous~
All else is much like a movie that we star in. Our relationships and possessions are simply passing experiences to help evolve our soul. As humans we get caught up in the script and forget the purpose- the big picture. I love the Biblical statement, "This too shall pass". It is difficult too remember it in times of stress, when everything in our "world" seems to be crumbling before our eyes.
Another powerful quote that recently came to my attention is a Buddhist saying, "Look at your feet." I have been doing that a lot since I heard it. Although I am very grateful for all that I have there are times when I wish for more. At those times I look down at my feet and realize that they are exactly where they are supposed to be at this moment in my life. They are doing exactly what they are supposed to be doing, walking the path to change.
Change
By changing your thinking, you change your beliefs;
When you change your beliefs, you change your expectations;
When you change your expectations, you change your attitude;
When you change your attitude, you change your behavior;
When you change your behavior, you change your performance;
When you change your performance, you change your life.
~Anonymous~
Friday, July 9, 2010
Celebrating Freedom
Almost to the minute, 11 years ago a judge declared my marriage of 27 years legally ended. Am I sorry? Absolutely not! Looking back it is hard to believe the changes in me. I have grown from an unhappy wife who yelled most of the time to a very happy independent woman who does exactly what she pleases and values herself.
Over the years I have learned that I do not need to depend on a man to live my life. Generally speaking there is nothing wrong with male earthlings. I have just discovered that they are like the cherry on top of a delicious ice cream sundae. It tastes good, but is not the main ingredient.
So today as I think about the last 11 years I am very proud of myself. I owe no one anything. I have made great decisions that have kept my body, my house and my relationships in good shape and as the song goes- "I did it my way". Words from an Abraham/Hicks video I heard this morning pretty well sum it all up- "I am where I am and I am doing really good!"
Over the years I have learned that I do not need to depend on a man to live my life. Generally speaking there is nothing wrong with male earthlings. I have just discovered that they are like the cherry on top of a delicious ice cream sundae. It tastes good, but is not the main ingredient.
So today as I think about the last 11 years I am very proud of myself. I owe no one anything. I have made great decisions that have kept my body, my house and my relationships in good shape and as the song goes- "I did it my way". Words from an Abraham/Hicks video I heard this morning pretty well sum it all up- "I am where I am and I am doing really good!"
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